Sunday, October 10, 2010

How to Find a Dream Guy

Isn't it funny that if you walked into a group of women and asked to describe their dream guy the answers would differ wildly? It's true. There is not universal "dream guy," and what's more give those same women ten years and the answer might just be different again. Dreams change and evolve, so does taste and knowledge; accept those facts and you will be much happier.

First things first, ignore your friend that is drooling over the exotic dancer over there. He is either gay or an actor working on his first big break, (read: unemployed), maybe even both. Now, ignore your mother with her "only marry a doctor or lawyer" lines. Young doctors work hideous and long hours, and you know what the issue is with lawyers. You have heard all the lawyer jokes right? Now, the advice you just got from me? Ignore it too. Yes, you heard me, ignore my first piece of advice. That is the key word for you to focus on, your mantra: ignore.

Your friends and family want you to be happy, but they have preconceived notions about what your happiness is going to look like. You have to make that choice for yourself. If you are a wild and crazy, living on the edge kind of girl, then a traditional marriage with a buttoned up kind of guy is not going to be your ideal, is it? The dream guy must fit the dream life and letting someone else write the script is just sad and wrong. Plus it almost never works out in the end.

If you know your own personality, your likes and dislikes and your goals for the future, then you more that likely will know the basic type of dream guy to be in it. Don’t get hung up on that one type though, you might be missing out on more than just a new man, you might be missing out on the love of a lifetime.
Yes, I once had a dream in mind. I would marry the blonde boy down the road and together we would make beautiful blonde babies. That did not happen. The boy met someone else and had the angelic blondes while I moved to another state. The dream changed and so too did the dream guy. I accepted the change and thankfully, found out that you do not base a life decision on hair color, or any potential changes he may bring into your future.

Start your search for the dream guy by taking a good hard look at the men you are dating or friends with now. Are any of them even near to dream guy status? Have you had a serious change of opinion about any of them in recent months? Have you suddenly started looking at your best guy friend in a whole new way lately? Your dream guy is not some buff, glossy haired stud all the time. Sometimes he is the short, funny guy that show up for your first date with flowers and always asks if your hands are warm enough. You never saw yourself falling in love with him, but now you cannot stop thinking about him. The dream changed and so too did the dream guy. Lucky you, sounds like you found him. 100% Free Online Dating Here

Thursday, July 9, 2009

Women Seeking Men - Advice For Younger Women

If the concept of younger women falling for older men excites you then this post is ideal for you. There are many cases in which we see a young woman falling head over heels in love with a much older man. This is the classic case which has been in existence for many years now. The advent of online dating sites has given leverage to such relationships as you can chat easily with those people who you would not even have glance twice at in a social gathering. One of the many advantages of this form of dating, online portals helps women seeking men to find their soul mate irrespective of age.

Younger women seeking men are bowled over the by the maturity and intelligence which older men possess. Women get matured quickly than men and the often frivolous ways of young men are a deterrent for them. As a result, more and more women seeking men are turning to the internet for some solace. Here they can interact with men who are older and sensible than the usual horde they are treated to.

Older men are able to understand women better than their younger counterparts simply because of the huge amount of life experience which they have had. On the other hand, it works out for most older men too because the idea of having a pretty young thing as a companion is something which no man complains about, no matter the age.

There are a few rules which have to be followed for women seeking men and are interested in older men. The fact that older men treat them as princesses and give them all the adoration and adulation in all the right amounts stems from the fact that they know what makes a girl feel special. But, it is also up to the girl to make the older man feel special because you are the one who is benefiting the most from the relationship.

This should prompt the women to put their best foot forward and really work towards making the relationship a success. You should understand that younger men, someone closer to your age would have been more immature and the time needed to make him see the frivolities of his behavior is not needed out here. Older men already know what is required and they make no qualms about it. Give your best shot in such a relationship and you are sure to come out with flying colors.

If you are a women seeking men you need to keep your priorities straight. Take note of how the man treats other people. Is he kind and selfless or does he try to get his way? You want to see if he is honest and trustworthy by ensuring that he is truthful. Keep an open mind and guarded heart. Don't give your self quickly but instead trust wisdom and time to tell you if he is the one for you.

Allen Tane is an experienced writer on the professional singles market and women seeking men to date. He has been writing for quite a while and has had countless articles published. Some of Allen's most favorite topics to write on include single professionals over 30, mature professional singles, women seeking men, and matchmaking. Allen's articles are well written and memorable. They are especially great for anyone looking to start dating and still keep up with their daily activities.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

How to Get a Guy - These Tips Will Attract the Hottest Guys

Have you ever learned the ropes on how to get a guy? Do you spend most of your nights alone or out with couples as the perpetual third-wheel? Is it your chance now to be in the arms of a gorgeous guy who is mad about you? With all the information that is crammed into a girl's head throughout her life, why are so many women still in the dark when it comes to how to get a guy? These tips will help you learn to attract the hottest guys.

Tip #1 - Try something new

If you are always going to the same old spots that you've been frequenting for the past several years and you aren't meeting guys you shouldn't be surprised. If something is not working, then you have to find a way to fix it! Find new places to go out where you have a chance to meet a whole new group of men. And make sure that you go to places where quality men are spending time. For instance, if all you are meeting in bars is guys who are not your type, stop trying to meet a guy at a bar!

Tip #2 - Update your style

If you are still wearing the same hair style and clothes that you were wearing ten years ago then you aren't going to attract the hottest guys. Men don't know this, but they do care about women's fashion. Women who keep up with modern styles and dress in a stylish way are going to catch the eyes of the men around them. No, you do not have to follow every trend, but if you are still wearing mom-jeans or crimping your hair you need to update your personal style.

Tip # 3- Get your life straight

It really doesn't matter how beautiful a girl is, a guy will not want to build a serious relationship with her if her life is a mess. This can range from your personal health to your relationships with other people, or your spending habits. If there is something about you that you wouldn't want in a guy, then why expect a guy to accept it in you? Any guy who is worth getting is going to be looking for a woman who has her life in order.

So if after you read this you realize that you need to do some spring cleaning in your closet or in your life, try not to waste any time. You know how to get a guy, so go get one!

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This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Should I Call Him? Simple Rules About Calling Men You Should Know

Knowing when and how you should call a man in your life can make it or break it. Should I call him, is a often a very confusing question for women. If you are wondering whether you should call him or not, be sure to read this article which explains the most critical things about calling men in dating you simply can't afford to miss.

When a man takes you number and doesn't call, you are often compelled to just give him a buzz. What worse could happen, you may be thinking. If he is not calling me, I would much rather just give him a ring and see what happens.

If this is what you are thinking you are sabotaging your relationship and a potential of something good. Each relationship, whether casual dating at the very beginning or even a relationship that is moving toward something more serious has to develop on its own pace. You can't force it to develop faster than it should. What you can do instead of calling him is go on with your life until the phone call comes from him.

The reason you shouldn't call him but wait for him to call instead is really very simple. When you make him call you, he will feel that it is him pursuing you and not the other way around. He will see you as more valuable and is well worth pursuing. Even if you have been waiting a day, two days, three days or even a week and he still hasn't called, think twice before picking up the phone and giving him a call.

Now, listen carefully!

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Sunday, June 28, 2009

Using Craigslist For Online Dating

Craigslist is one of the most popular websites on the internet.  This is a good thing and a bad thing.  The good part of it is that tons of people visit the site monthly and you are able to find pretty much anything there.  The bad part is that internet marketers take advantage of this and try to solicit business by posting fake ads.

I know that Craigslist can be frustrating when you are looking for a date or love.  Almost every ad on Craigslist is put up by a fake who is looking for you to sign up for some scam website.  This is terrible because there are plenty of REAL people who use craigslist to find love every day.  Sometimes it can be hard to pick out the real ones, but there are a few simple tips you can follow to protect yourself.

You must also know that many girls are not using Craigslist anymore because they are required to pay to post an ad.  Because of this, many of the people went to other places to find love, but Craigslist is still very popular.

The first tip is to ask a simple question in your response.  By simply asking something like "do you like older men" or "do you mind smokers" is a great way to find out if someone is real.  If they respond to you without answering the question you asked, chances are they are fake.

The second tip is to sign the response with a name.  It doesn't have to be your real name, but sing it with a name.  By simply putting "Thanks, Jim" at the end of the email you will be setting the ad poster up for the ultimate test.  If they address their response with "Hey Jim" or "Dear Jim" it at least means that they are writing the email to YOU.  If they write back with "Hey Hun" or "Hey Baby", chances are they are just auto-responding to you and it is a fake ad.

The third and final tip is to watch the pictures.  If you see a picture that looks like it was taken in a studio, chances are they are fake.  If you get a picture from a cell phone or something that looks "amateur" chances are they are real.

At the end of the day the best defense is just common sense.  Just be careful and make sure things look legit.

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Friday, June 26, 2009

How to Use Your Eyes to Build Attraction

Your eyes are a very important asset in the whole dating and pick up game. Ever hear a girl say "he has nice eyes" and then you look at the guy she's admiring and his eyes don't look like anything special.

It's because he knows how to use his eyes to communicate confidence and sensuality. Something that took me years to figure out. You can be sensual without being sexual. There are a ton of things you can do to build attraction and every dating coach has their own opinions as well as their own field-tested results. Most will agree that your body language, how close / far away you are from her, your eyes, your vocal projection, how and when you touch her, sense of humor, confidence, etc. are all necessary ingredients for building attraction.

You are going to use your eyes to build SOME level of interest. Then you're going to use them to build attraction. Interest, then attraction....got it? If you're not used to looking a girl straight in the eye without making a weird face or without turning away, then it's something you can overcome by practicing. How do you practice?

Simply start making more eye contact. It helps if you bring a buddy or a female friend to walk a few feet away from you so they can see your facial expression when you do make eye contact. Their feedback will be invaluable. Here's the biggest lesson about eye contact:

Looking a woman in the eye and holding it longer than normal communicates to her that you are confident. It tells her you are not an average guy. An average guy looks a hot girl in the eye and then looks down at the floor or he looks away. Let's take this deeper.

Her internal biological and psychological mechanisms that CREATE or DESTROY attraction go into motion. Without even thinking about it on a conscious level she already begins to get that "ewwww" feeling.

All you're doing from across the room, cafe, bowling alley, gas station, night club, bar, wherever...is communicating that "hey, I'm a great catch, I'm confident, and I'm not an average guy."

Women, especially cute ones, get approaches by TONS of men who suck up to them and say stupid things, so by simply holding your eye contact a little longer than normal you're telling her that there's a small chances you are one of those guys.

There are dozens of ways to use your eyes to BUILD the attraction after you have generated initial interest. Here's one that I used recently at a night club. I saw a group of girls at the bar getting drinks. One of the brunettes turned around to see what was going on (hot girls tend to do that) and our eyes met. We lock, 3 seconds later we both look away.

Brunette becomes intrigued and turns around again pretending to look at other people but then her eyes land on me again. To her surprise I'm still standing there, drink in my hand, and catch her gaze again. This time I take a few steps closer to her though not walking directly toward her. I'm walking more to the group to her left.

As I'm walking toward her I caress her face with eyes and let out a small smirk. I've read / heard some pick up artists say to never, every smile or smirk at a woman, and I could NOT disagree more. There's a time and place for just about everything.

There are two basic types of smiles:

A weak, needy smile.

A smile that exudes confidence.

If you've watched enough movies in your lifetime you know what I'm talking about.

She smirks back. Not an ear-to-ear grin, but a smirk. Like most hot girls, this girl knew how to pace. By the time she has turned 18 years old, a hot girl has had far MORE social interactions than your typical 18 year old male.

When was the last time you had 25 to 50 females approach you in one week? One weekend? It's not easy being a good-looking female, which is why many of them resort to being bitchy when you first approach them. I actually LIKE it when a hot babe is bitchy to me because I know she's mistaking me for the wrong guy.

Sometimes just staying there and talking like everything's normal does the trick. Sometimes just saying "hey, it's ok, relax...my bark is worse than my bite." Back to the bar girl.

I was not at this night club to pick up. I was there with my date to dance and listen to the DJs bring the house down, but I love to flirt, especially with my eyes. So I walked by the brunette and then continued walking. This is non-neediness at it's best. I was at the club to have a good time, not to get digits or get somewhere with any one girl.

About an hour later I bumped into her group again and decided to caress her face again with my eyes. We were about 5 inches apart, talk about creating sexual tension (a good thing in this case). She then smacks my shoulder and walks off.That smack on my shoulder was her way of telling me:

"You flirt with me with your eyes and then you don't step up and talk to me?"

The thing is, if you're confident you don't give a crap on what some cute young thing thinks about you. You really don't. So her little smack on my shoulder....I loved it man. I get smacked a lot by cute girls, I think I drive them crazy sometimes. I'm just out to have a good time. Girls GET that vibe and are drawn to it.

Remember girls can SENSE when you're needy or WANT something from them. The hotter they are the more they will assume that you WANT them. By the way you talk, the way you move, and the way you use your eyes you can communicate to them that "there's always another girl".....without having to say it. It will come with practice.

So, I followed her, tapped her firmly on the shoulder, grabbed her hand, twirled her around, let her go, and then walked back to my group of friends (my date had disappeared to the bathroom). My friend told me the look on her face was "priceless"...it could have been a Mastercard commercial.

Pick up is a skill. Flirting is a skill. Just like learning tennis, how to write calligraphy, or learning a new language...it's a real skill and it takes practice. Once you ACCEPT this fact you take away a lot of stress and self-doubt.

Then you can focus more on your goals and not so much on the PROCESS. You've got to practice, reject rejection, and learn to use your eyes, then you go in and make the approach, IF you want to. That's the great thing about working on your skill set, you can opt to approach, or not. You can opt to get her phone number or simply have a great interaction with a girl and then walk away.

I do it all the time. My friends constantly tell me "dude, you should have asked for her number."

My response is always the same:

"I chose not to."

When you can get a date anytime you want, it no longer becomes a NECESSITY. Once you get to this level of personal development is when you know you've gotten rid of your neediness.....

I know you guys are going to ask me this question so I'm going to answer it right now:

"Do I have to get eye contact to talk to a girl?"

No.

You do NOT need it. It's great if you get it, but I've done some of my best work by just walking up to a girl and just start talking.

Holding your eye contact is just one of the few things you can start doing RIGHT now to begin having better results with the female population. So start having fun with this. Start experimenting with your eye contact. Who knows, you just might make a new friend.

Rod Cortez is an international dating coach who overcame his own shyness and anxiety attacks by utilizing his own personal power and creating methods for meeting, talking to, and dating attractive women. His free newsletter has helped men in dozens of countries around the world: http://TheDatePro.com

Thursday, June 25, 2009

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You - Does He Really Like You?

Let me say right off the bat: stop wasting your time going after creeps that won't appreciate you. If you have to be something other than who you really are then he is not worth it. If you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you then there are certain ways to do this, let's take a look at a few:

1. When he really likes you he will show it by spending quality time with you. If you are with someone that is not giving you the quality time that you deserve than that is not a good sign.

2. Another sign that he really likes you is judged by the affection he shows you. I am not talking about wanting to go to bed but I am talking about public displays of affection; hugging, kissing, sweet nothings, etc ...

3. In my opinion, the best way how to tell if a guy likes you is to ask him. It may seem like an obvious statement but you would be surprised at how many guys are straight up and willing to tell you how he really feels. So, just go ahead and ask him.

4. Does he make eye contact with you? When a guy likes you he will look you right in the eye but that is one of the first things to do when he does not.

5. If he really does like you he will also be willing to help you out with the little things. For example: He will help you wash dishes, pick up your trash and throw it out, do little favors, it really comes down to little acts of kindness.

If you are looking to discover whether or not he really likes you then there are some ways to figure this out. In the end, if he is not good to you and does not appreciate you for who you are then go find someone else. As the old saying goes, "There are plenty of fish in the sea."

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